Saturday, 25 April 2015

Why Dad's Parenting Technique Can Be Better

As a mom I know that I can be guilty of trying to make my daughter's father do things the "correct" way, such as putting clothes on the right way, holding a baby the right way, bathing a baby the right way, etc. Moms don't realize that by doing this they're pushing dads away and they don't want to have anything to do with the baby. Then moms complain that they get no help. Although it may be hard, bite your tongue, let the father find his own way, and he'll be more likely to be involved in the future.

I recently ran across this article from Parenting called Why Dad's Parenting Technique Can Be Better. It's definitely worth a read.

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Friday, 17 April 2015

Recommended Childbirth and Labor Books

There are so many books out there that it's easy to get overwhelmed. Here are some books that consistently get good reviews. The Book Depository has free shipping to Korea. What the Book in Itaewon can get most books for you. Amazon might be a good option if you have someone coming to visit or can buy the Kindle version of the book. The descriptions are based off of Amazon's descriptions.

Birth Without Violence
Written by Frederick Leboyer M.D.
This famous doctor challenged traditional views of infants in the western world. He proved that infants are very aware of their surroundings, they can feel pain, they need to be near their mother, and their birth must be gentle. Low lights, quietness, and warmth can help ease a baby's transition into the world. First published in 1974 it completely changed the way the western world viewed birth. You can buy it from Amazon or the Book Depository.

Birthing From Within: An Extra-Ordinary Guide to Childbirth Preparation
Written by Pam England and Rob Horowitz
The authors believe that childbirth should not be a medical event, but rather a rite of passage. There's information about how to cope with pain during labor without the use of drugs, how the father can help during labor, and what the doctor's role should be. There is also information about newborn care, breastfeeding, and postpartum. You can buy it from Amazon or the Book Depository.

Childbirth Without Fear
Written by Grantley Dick-Read
A famous pro-natural birth advocate, Dick-Read discusses why western women fear childbirth and helps them overcome this fear. He also discusses the importance of breastfeeding and overcoming the obstacles. A must-read for moms-to-be. You can buy it from Amazon or the Book Depository.

The Complete Book of Pregnancy and Childbirth
Written by Shelia Kitzinger
This book gives parents all the information they need to make informed choices about pregnancy and childbirth, from interventions to pre-natal testing. There are also over 300 photos, drawings, and diagrams. You can buy it from Amazon or the Book Depository.

Gentle Birth Choices
Written by Barbara Harper
In this day and age we are inundated with dramatic births courtesy of Hollywood. This book also contains a DVD with 6 gentle births. The book helps debunk many of the myths surrounding childbirth and tells you how to make it a family-centered event. Fear, pain, and violence do not have to be a part of birth. She also gives advice about using water during birth, hiring a doula, and avoiding interventions. You can buy it from Amazon or the Book Depository.

Gentle Birth, Gentle Mothering: A Doctor's Guide to Natural Childbirth and Gentle Early Parenting Choices
Written by Sarah Buckley
This book is written by a doctor who birthed all four of her children at home. She advocates natural birth and gentle parenting. She backs up her information with current research and women's experiences. She also has good information on breastfeeding and sleeping. You can buy it from Amazon or the Book Depository.

Ina May's Guide to Childbirth
Written by Ina May Gaskin
Ina May is the nation's leading midwife. Known for her work on The Farm, a natural birthing community, Ina May tells you everything you need to know about birthing, such as what happens during labor, how to induce labor, episiotomies, anesthesia, c-sections, postpartum depression, how to choose a place to birth, and more. This book was written to empower women and allow them to birth easily with less pain and little interventions. You can buy it off Amazon or the Book Depository.

Pregnancy, Childbirth, and the Newborn

Written by Penny Simkin, April Bolding, Ann Keppler, Janelle Durham, and Janet Whalley
Consistently a best seller, this book is easy to read yet chock-full of information. There's information about traditional medicine, such as acupuncture, interventions, VBACs, how to make an informed decision, and much more. There are features such as Common Q&As, in their own words, and fact or fiction that add even more to this award winning book. You can also check out their website, PCNGuide. You can buy it from Amazon or the Book Depository.

Spiritual Midwifery
Written by Ina May Gaskin
Another great book by Ina May. This book contains information about many of the routines that are used during birth and calls their safety into question. There's also information about birthing classes and doulas. Well worth a read for the expectant mother. You can buy it from Amazon or the Book Depository.

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Friday, 3 April 2015

Resources for Tongue Ties and Lip Ties for Babies in Korea

Updated 17 September 2017

Many infants are now being diagnosed with tongue ties (ankyloglossia) or lip ties (maxilliary frenum). It's when the frenulum under the tongue or between the upper lip and gums is too short. About 4% of babies have this and it seems to be hereditary. Some people say that if a mother has too much folic acid this can cause ties. Tongue and lip ties can make breastfeeding difficult. If a baby has a lip tie, it's very likely that they have a tongue tie as well and it could be a posterior tie.

When a baby has a tie the mother will often hear a clicking sound when the baby is breastfeeding. The nipple may look like the top of a lipstick and there might be a cut on it as well. It's often painful for the mother to breastfeed.

The good news is that it's easy to get ties clipped. Traditionally midwives would keep their pinkie nail long and just run it under the baby's tongue. There are no nerve endings here and little vascularity. Nowadays ties are cut with a laser. The whole procedure usually takes about 15-30 minutes. Doctors recommend taking your infant to a chiropractor within 24 hours of treatment and for a few weeks afterwards. You will also have to do stretches with your baby's tongue to ensure that it doesn't grow back. Below you can find some places that will cut ties. This information came from Expat Parents' Korea!

It costs around 70,000 if you have national insurance. However, some places like Midwife Rosa will not accept NHS and it will cost around 200,000. You can read more about all these places at Hospitals and Birthing Centers in Korea.

Midwife Rosa (Kim Ok Jin) Agitanseun Natural Birth Center (김옥진조산원)
Kim Okjin, Midwife aka "Rosa"
401-1, 3F Saeyang Chungmaru Sang-ga Naeson 2-dong, Uiwang, Gyeonggi-do 
경기도 의왕시 내손2동 401-1 세청마루상가 3F
Telephone: (031) 410-8597
Cell: 010-2447-8231 and 019-447-8231
Near Indeogwon station
  • She will come to your home and do it on newborns with scissors. However, she doesn't take national insurance.

Yoon Yi ENT Clinic (윤이비인후과의원(고잔)
Telephone: 031-401-4172
Gojan 2-dong 535-4, Danwon-gu, Ansan, Gyeonggi-do
경기 안산시 단원구 고잔2동 535-4
  • This clinic constantly gets good reviews and the doctor is considered to be an expert on ties in Korea.
  • This is the only place that uses lasers.  
  • They won't do it on babies who are younger than 4 weeks.  
  • The doctor doesn't seem to diagnose posterior tongue ties.

Prime Women's Clinic: Gimhae (near Busan) 
Naedong 1140-4 Guensang Building 2F, Gimhae, Gyeongsang-gu
Tel: (055) 328-0059

  • The doctor uses scissors. 

MediFlower OBGYN and Natural Birthing Center
Dr. Hwanwook Chung
2nd Floor of Lotte Castle Medici, 1656-4 Seocho-dong, Seocho-gu, Seoul
Telephone: (02) 548-9400 (Press 9 for English)
Near Kyodae subway station
  • A natural birthing clinic. The doctor uses scissors.

Yeon and Nature 
713 (Cheongdam-dong) Yeongdong-ro, Gangnam-gu, Seoul
서울시 강남구 영동대로 (청담동) 713, 10 & 11층
Telephone: 010-4009-1151
  • A natural birthing clinic. The doctor uses scissors.

Lady Samsung Women and Children's Hospital (삼성산부인과) now Zion Women's Hospital (시온여성병원)
1011-2, Youngtong-dong, Yeongtong-gu, Suwon, Gyeonggi-do
경기도 수원시 영통구 영통동 1011-2
Telephone: (031) 201-0700
  • They won't do it on babies who are younger than 4 weeks. They use scissors.

Yonsei Moa Women and Children's Hospital (연세모아병원)
Pediatric area
Yeongtong-dong 947-2 ban-gil (bongyeonglo 1759 ban gil)
수원시 영통구 영통동 947-2번지(봉영로 1759번길 41)
Telephone : 031-201-4500
  • They use scissors.

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